This year I celebrate my second Mother’s Day as a mother to my amazing little man. A year makes a difference in so many ways. It is incredible is many ways and unbelievable in so many more. Oh how life can change in a single year. We don’t have anything big planned for Mother’s Day and it has been a difficult week for my family. When my mom asked me if we could just pretend Mother’s Day didn’t exist this year, I didn’t hesitate to say yes. She quickly added that I’m a mother too now and she didn’t want to ruin it for me. I told her that it didn’t matter because it doesn’t at all. Mother’s Day is just another day and we can make it anything we want it to be. I am a mother and she is a mother. As a fellow mother, I want to support her in any way I can. Above all else, I want her to remember that no matter what, she will always be a mother.
Happy Mother’s Day to My Mom, You’ll Always Be a Mother
While I cannot completely understand the feelings a mother has when they have to say goodbye to their own child, I do know what it feels like to lose a sister long before I ever expected to have to worry about it. I also know how connected my heart is to my son. I cannot imagine losing him now or 22 years from now.
I now know what it’s like to answer the question, “How many siblings do you have?” and hesitate for a moment because I still have 3 just like I have had for a long time. Still, it hurts every single time I have to say it. I cannot imagine answering the question, “How many kids do you have?” Even though the answer is still the same 2 that she’s had for the past 23 years, it has to be a little heartbreaking each time.
This Mother’s Day, I have a new perspective. While many of us are celebrating the joys of being a mother and seeing the world through the eyes of our children, there are many mothers who are missing the simple joys of caring for their child, no matter how young or old that child happened to be.
Think of those moms today and pray for them, send them positive energy, or anything that you do. Hug your own children and hold them close no matter how old they are. You never know when it might be the last day you spend together. Make each day count and remember those mothers who are learning how to be a mother without their child here with them.
This Mother’s Day, I plan to spend the day hugging my son and hugging my mom. For us, it may be just another Sunday and that is just fine. Whether or not we celebrate Mother’s Day does not change that my mom will always be a mother. She is one of the the strongest mothers I know. I may be biased but I have seen her walk through the past 10 months with a strength that blows me away.
If you know a mother who has suffered the loss of a child, please remember her on Mother’s Day. No matter how young or old, the loss of a child is debilitating and I believe that these mothers are some of the most amazing mothers around. If you know one, just wish her a happy Mother’s Day. She is still a mother and deserves to be celebrated!