Love is what started it all. J and I met on match.com nearly 6 years ago when I took a chance and sent him a message about the World Cup. Now we’re getting ready to celebrate our 4th anniversary and we have an amazing toddler who has definitely become the center of attention. Becoming parents has proven to be extremely amazing and extremely challenging. It definitely changes life completely and nearly a year and a half after W was born, we are still adjusting and figuring out how it all works for our family.
Recently I had the opportunity to read “Finding Your Extraordinary Love” by Ricky Cohen. Honestly, I wasn’t sure what the book would have to offer me because I have already found my match but I was interested to see what it had to say and compare it to my own experience in this day of internet dating. Well, I was completely wrong about the book! It offered insight into the journey of finding you love mate that I felt was very relevant during the early years of marriage that J and I are in.
It was an extremely quick read and I will admit that I don’t read nearly as much as I did before I had W. I was able to get through the book in two nights just reading it before bed. It’s a very easy read and it takes more time to truly think about what Cohen says in the book and examine your own life. Over the past year, I have had a change in how I see the world and in some of what is important to me. Even after all of that reflection, “Finding Your Extraordinary Love” gave me even more food for thought.
Finding Your Extraordinary Love has great insight for married couples as well as those who are looking for their match!
There were a few things I enjoyed about the book. It focused on the importance of finding yourself and your own happiness as the key to a successful relationship. This is one thing I know is true and I continue to evaluate my life and work to live my true happiness. If I can live this way, I know it will impact my relationship with my husband. I also loved how Cohen spoke about the difference between soul mates and love mates. It was a distinction that really gave me clarity about relationships in my life. I was able to see how I’ve had a few soul mates in my life and how they differ from J, who is my love mate. It’s an extremely interesting distinction and it’s worth reading the book to learn more about the differences!
J and W are the two men in my life! I adore both of them and don’t know what I would do without either of them. J and I are currently learning how to be husband and wife while also being the father and mother to an amazing little boy. It’s challenging and we’re slowly figuring out a formula for our family, but I know that our relationship as husband and wife is often put on the back burner. W has definitely taken over the center of attention.
Inspired by “Attracting Your Extraordinary Love,” I knew that J and I needed to take time for ourselves. I’m sure we’re not alone when it comes to learning how to balance it all. But after reading the book, I have been looking for opportunities to watch my husband and really listen to him to learn more about the man he is and the man he is becoming with fatherhood.
So, we put on our best evening wear and… okay, so we didn’t really do that. It had been a long week at work and it was a Friday night. I wasn’t in the mood to get all dressed up and go out on the town. I just wanted to enjoy a casual meal with my husband. I’m lucky because he doesn’t mind when I’m worn out and just want to pull my hair up in a ponytail and go somewhere mellow. It’s also nearing the end of the month so our dining out budget was wearing thin. I found a coupon for a restaurant that we like to save us a few dollars and we were ready!
It may not have been a gourmet restaurant but I was craving the Red Velvet Molten Lava Cake and J was happy to oblige this desire of mine. I will admit that I knew it would be a quicker meal than waiting for table service on a Friday night. W hasn’t been napping very well so evenings can be treacherous and I didn’t want anyone to have to deal with that on their own. There are also a lot of things that both J and I like on the menu so it’s great to be able to pick choose a little bit of everything and just sit, eat, and enjoy spending time together.
I love the chicken noodle soup and the lava cake was delicious! It may not have been a gourmet meal prepared by a chef but it was tasty! J and I had the opportunity to chat about work and different opportunities that we both have. We also got to talk about our plans for the holiday weekend. It’s going to be a busy one! J wanted to play golf with his brother so we figured out how that would work best for both of us. It was a time of good partnership and I think that it was definitely a good thing for the two of us. I will admit that communication is something that we struggle with but I know if we both continue to work on it, we will get it all figured out!
We had a great time together and it reminded me how much I do enjoy spending time with my husband. Sometimes that gets lost in the busy rush of life but it’s what is really important and I have to remember that. We are going to San Antonio in June so perhaps we can grab some time together without the little man and then we have our anniversary to celebrate in July. Even if we only carve out a few big date nights for each other, I think finding smaller moments to just reconnect is definitely important for us. The more connected we are to each other, the better parents we will be.
We have one of the most important and most adorable reasons to strive to be the best parents we can be! We cannot just be his parents though. We have to know ourselves and live for our own happiness as well as love each other and stay connected. These are areas where we both definitely need work and I’m glad that I had the opportunity to read “Attracting Your Extraordinary Love” by Ricky Cohen because it really made me stop and think about my life. Sometimes it is so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day routine that things slip by. The book definitely helped me stop, look, and listen. You can see how I was inspired by the book by visiting my Attracting Your Extraordinary Love pinboard on Pinterest!
Have you read “Attracting Your Extraordinary Love” by Ricky Cohen? How do you work to stay connected with your love mate?
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