Being a Good Mom: Who is to Judge?
So many of my mom friends talk about the “right” way to do things. As I shared last week, I’m pretty sure being a good mom is about doing what is best for your child and your family. I think this applies to any area of parenthood. I’m all about moms trusting themselves.
But I know it can be hard. It seems like there is always someone around to judge or criticize parenting choices, no matter what choices you make. I know how this can be. I’ve made plenty of decisions that have caused people to give me their two cents.
My Parenting Choices
Here are just a few decisions that I have received “advice” on over the past 22 months.
- I only saw a midwife for prenatal care. (Yes, there were people who thought I was getting lower level care.)
- I gave birth in a birthing center, not a hospital. I am debating home birth for the future.
- I had a waterbirth.
- I pick W up when he cries. I don’t worry about it spoiling him.
- We cosleep.
- I used cloth diapers for 10 months and then switched to mostly disposable diapers.
- I get him vaccinated on the regular schedule.
- I have never had him on a set schedule. I follow his cues.
Do these make me any better or worse of a mom then my friend down the street? I don’t think so! I have my son’s best interests at heart. I want to see him grow up to be a happy and healthy young man. I want my family to be full of love and support. As long I keep those goals in mind when I make decisions, I don’t think I can go wrong!
This is the way I feel about all moms and dads! So go with your gut and give your child (and family) what is needed! Love is the key! Everything else are just details.